Below are some questions that may help you tell your story if you have either lost a child through miscarriage, or are close to someone who has.
Questions to Consider if:
You Experienced a Miscarriage
Note: Not all of the questions will apply to your situation.
Before
When did you find out you or your partner were pregnant? How did you feel? Whom did you tell? What was their reaction? Did you begin making plans for the child’s arrival?
During
When did you suspect you or your partner were miscarrying the baby? How did you feel? Who accompanied you to the emergency room or doctor’s office? What happened there? Were the medical personnel supportive? Were you provided with information and referrals about remembrance services, support groups, and emotional support?
After
What happened right after the miscarriage? How did you feel? Did you talk to anyone about it? What happened in the days and weeks that followed? What happened in the months and years that followed? What did you feel immediately afterward? What do you feel now? How has the miscarriage impacted your life?
Someone Close to You Experienced Miscarriage
Note: Not all of the questions will apply to your situation. It all depends on when you found out about the pregnancy and the miscarriage.
Before
When did you find out about the pregnancy? What was your reaction? What was her/their reaction? Who else knew? What role did you play, if any, as the pregnancy progressed?
During
When and where did the miscarriage take place? Did you accompany her/them to the emergency room or doctor’s office? What was that like? How did you feel?
After
What happened right after the miscarriage? Were you able to talk about it? If so, with whom? What happened in the days and weeks that followed? What happened in the months and years that followed? What did you feel immediately afterward? What do you feel now? How has the miscarriage impacted your life?